5 Ways to Fall in Love in Kelowna

Dear Readers

After many months of patiently waiting, Jason and I finally went on our first vacation as a couple!!!

WE WENT TO KELOWNA!!!!

If you follow my Instagram, you already know that Jason and I spent a week at Kelowna along with my family and Jason’s little brother, Jonas. Kelowna is perhaps my favorite Canadian city during the summer. WHY?

BECAUSE I FALL IN LOVE WITH KELOWNA EVERY SINGLE TIME I VISIT.

The mountains that surround the massive lakes are a sight to marvel on its own. Add wine to that mix, and you got yourself a romantic place… best part about this year’s Kelowna trip is the fact that the love of my life, mi amor, my langga, my bao bei, was with me the whole time.

You see, falling in love in Kelowna can happen in 5 ways.

1.) Wineries

Did you really go to Kelowna if you didn’t visit at least ONE winery???

If you said NO, then you definitely missed out!!! But if you said YES, then you would know how romantic wineries are. During this trip, Jason and I visited a few wineries, including Mission Hill, Summerhill Pyramid Winery, and Frequency Winery.

I’m not much of a “wine expert”, but I am a TOURIST expert. I didn’t go to these wineries for the wine, to be honest, I was there solely for the view and the ambiance of it all. As Jason and I strolled through each winery, hand in hand, I can feel the pure joy of being in love just swarming my veins and dashing through my soul. Nothing felt better than dragging your partner to corners of the winery just to see a different angle of the marvellous mountains… or perhaps, dragging your partner to the spots wherein the best views can be seen… that on its own is a feeling worth falling in love for. As we soaked up the summer heat, we also soaked up the mesmerizing view of each other being mesmerized of the view in front of us. Jason is quite a view himself, but the view from the wineries I mentioned, are truly one of a kind.

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2.) Cherry Picking

Another popular tourist attraction or tourist to-do in Kelowna is to pick cherries or cherry picking!

My little cousin, Aurora, had the best time picking cherries! Look at these photos of her:

But cherry picking is not only fun for kids, it’s also fun for adults! Jason and I truly enjoyed following Aurora around the cherry trees. For each cherry we picked and ate, the sweetness of each cherry can’t compare to the sweetness level of my relationship with Jason. Nothing can compare to the sight of Jason picking up a cherry from the tallest branch, and then giving it to me… the sweetness of each cherry can’t compare to the sweetness of having Jason there to eat and experience these cherries with me. The whole experience wouldn’t had been the same if Jason wasn’t in the picture.

3.) Water Sports 

If you’re a couple who are always looking for some thrill, adventure, and fun, then Kelowna is still a perfect place to fall in love at!

This year’s Kelowna trip, Jason and I did some water sports such as tubing and rode like adrenaline junkies in rented sea doos! The adrenaline rush was so addicting!!! I would definitely come back and do all of it again! You should too!

Kelowna is a great place to make memories at. Not only does the place offer amazing views, it’s also a great place to experience new things for the first time. In our case, Jason’s first time tubing and riding/driving the sea doo happened in Kelowna. Since it was his first time trying these fun activities, the experience became a hundred times more memorable. In terms of falling in love, how can you ever forget your firsts???

The memories of trying something new along with the one you love, is better than your typical Friday night date, because you get to create a memory that will last longer than any regular date ever will. I mean, how can you forget that one time you two fell off a tube while being dragged by a boat that’s going 60 km/h… or that one time you saw your family members fall off a sea doo because they were driving too fast… or that one time you drove a sea doo for the first time… these are the type of stories a couple will share with their family, friends, and even strangers, over and over again.

4.) Date Night at Cactus Club Cafe

Jason and I LOVE food.

Food is an important part of our relationship, because we both love to eat!!! A vacation wouldn’t be complete without a private date night (just us two), and good food. So, on the last night of our trip, we left Jonas with my parents and decided to drive to Downtown Kelowna Boardwalk. Around this area, you will find some great restaurants. Of all the great places to eat near the boardwalk, we decided to hit up Cactus Club Cafe because it is located at waterfront. The ambiance of the place was perfect too!!! And the food, well, you can never go wrong with Cactus Club Cafe!

Alone time as a couple is so important during a big family vacation. Dinner dates such as these, can make any place feel a hundred times more surreal. The conversations seem to last a little longer, the food seem to taste a little better, and the person you’re with seem to be placed perfectly in your life… that dinner wouldn’t be the same if it was with someone else. The moments we had shared while we were on our date night at Cactus Club Cafe, was quite special.

5.) Stroll Around Kasugai Gardens 

While you’re in the Downtown Kelowna Boardwalk area, make sure to take a quick stroll around Kasugai Gardens.

Nature offers beauty beyond words can ever describe. Gardens offer serenity and a sense of wonder at how beautiful flowers blossom and how green the grasses and leaves can get. While strolling around Kasugai Gardens, the serenity of the place will make you feel even more at peace while you hold your special someone’s hand as tightly as you possibly can. As you stroll around, you will realize that the sense of serenity and ease doesn’t just come from the garden alone… it also comes with the fact that you have someone you love to hold beside you. The peacefulness of the garden was amplified because Jason was there with me. During our stroll at Kasugai Garden, I felt at peace and so relaxed. At that moment, I was not alone… I had someone who loved me and whom I loved back… Being able to share moments like this with each other, is worth falling in love for.

As summer 2018 draws near to an end, I look forward to my future Kelowna summer trips. WHY?

because I want to fall in love over, and over again. 

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

 

Relationship Mood Board – How to Celebrate Your One Year Anniversary!!

Dear Readers,

As you all may already know, Jason and I celebrated our one year anniversary on June 25, 2018. Since it was on a Monday, we decided to have our anniversary dinner on Saturday, June 23. Here are some pics from our dinner at Sukiyaki House:

On our actual anniversary date on June 25, 2018, Jason and I made a Mood Board!!!!

What is a Mood Board?

Ideally, a Mood Board is a giant poster/board that hold photos, and words that lead towards inspiration. Ultimately, a Mood Board should help you visualize what you’re thinking or dreaming about in your head. By putting all of these creative ideas or dreams or visions you have from your head, into something physical such as a poster paper, can help you channel out your energy the right way. It helps you determine the goals you have in mind, and pushes you to believe and strive towards those goals.

The power of the mind is no joke. Have you ever heard of the saying, “the more you think, dream, and pray about it, the more it’ll come true”. The Mood Board, is the visual representation of that saying.

The idea of making a Mood Board came from my best friend, Tamika. Originally, she told me to make one for myself only… but then I realized, why not make a “Relationship Mood Board” instead?!?!

Jason and I gathered photos from the internet that represented the 5 most important things in our relationship. These 5 are:

1.) Family

2.) Home

3.) Pet

4.) Travel

5.) Cars

This is how our Mood Board looks like:

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As you can see, at the back of our board we wrote a special letter from our “current selves” to our “future selves”.  It’s a reminder of who we are right now, and who we aspire to be… just in case, somewhere along our lives wherein we might forget.

A quick summary of the 5 most important things in our life, and the photos we selected.

  1. Family – Jason and I want to have 2 kids. We also want to establish our careers as CPAs (Chartered Professional Accountants) and land stable jobs. We both agree that job security is important in order to maintain a happy family.
  2. Home – Thankfully, we both agree to a modern looking house, and modern decor. I want a nice kitchen, with white marble countertops, white walls, and modern furnitures. Jason wants a gaming room, wherein he can play his gaming computer, TV, Xbox, and Play Station (typical guy, I know).
  3. Pet – This was mostly MY IDEA. I grew up with two cats, and ever since I lost them, I’ve been relentlessly dreaming of owning my own pet cat. Ideally, I want a fat grey cat, just like the one on our Mood Board 🙂
  4. Travel – Both of us want to travel the world before we officially settle, get married and have kids. At the top of our travel bucket list includes, Philippines (my country of birth), China (Jason’s country of birth), Mexico, and Las Vegas (Jason enjoys gambling – so this would be the perfect getaway for him!).
  5. Cars – Our dream cars all happen to be in white colors!!! Mine would be the G-Wagon, and his are the other two cars on the board (I have no idea what they’re called).

I love our Mood Board!!!

It’s the best source of inspiration, and motivation to keep on going. It’s truly a physical way of viewing our dreams as a couple. Now that I have it up in my room, every time I glance at it, I feel so much more inspired… more motivated… more ambitious… and it feels as if my dreams, are not too far away.

Our Relationship Mood Board, represents the goals that Jason and I are working towards. Each couple must have these sets of goals, because having an end goal wherein both partners can work towards is key to a lasting relationship. How dull would your relationship be, if you and your partner have no dreams… no shared visions… no shared goals… A couple must always, always dream and work hard together, because that is truly the key to a beautiful and long relationship.

Remember this, “the glory and joy of achieving your goals as a couple will taste so much sweeter, because the couple dreamed it together, worked for it together, and are living in it together. Don’t let your fear hold you back… support each other… encourage the other… and one day, in God’s good grace, you’ll have everything in your Relationship Mood Board too!” 

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

Let’s Protect the Girls of Tomorrow – #MeToo

January 23, 2018

Dear Readers,

The concept of transitioning into an adult, while still having a youthful soul is a scary thought. How can a girl share her creativity in a world that judges and criticizes too much? How can a girl be creative when gender barriers still exists… and for some reason, a boy’s creativity will always prevail over hers? How can a girl be strong enough to voice her truth, when no one seems to care… when no one seems to believe… when no one seems to take a stand. How can a girl be strong enough to conquer all forms of oppressions? How can a girl finally transition into a woman with passion, strength, and ability to empower others with her beautiful mind and heart?

When I was a kid, I had a strong fascination with balloons. This is my homage to the inner child in me – the child who had always believed in the good. The child whose innocence was not tainted by the sad reality that life is difficult – especially if you’re a girl.

Now, I can start this post by discussing the gender wage gap existing in the workforce, or by criticizing the likes of Harvey Weinstein or Donald Trump. I can tell you how much it pains me to know that male privilege exists in our society… how most of the top CEO’s are men, how the glass ceiling exists to target the female population, and how the opportunities for women to grow their careers are not as significant as it is for men. But instead, I want to narrow the vast oppression of women into one specific area: sexual harassment. 

I want to tell you how much I hate seeing women’s talents being ignored unless they’re ready to bare it their all. To be notice by a crowd, a woman not only has to showcase her abilities and talents, she must also be compliant to male orders and directions. A woman with a talent is nothing if she is not ready to bare herself to a man with authority…. to allow herself to be taken sexually… to be harassed in order to reach her dreams. This is the reality that tainted my innocence and pushed me to stand with the women who demands for equality and truth.

When I was kid, someone once told me to, “marry young and obey your husband”.  We brought up our girls to understand that women must be willing to cater to their husband’s needs, and we raised our girls to become “stay at home moms”. We had gone through generations of male dominance and male leadership, without ever questioning their “male” position as a female. Old traditions of teaching young girls to cook, sew, clean, and look beautiful for a man who’ll take care of her financially is outdated. Our society is partially to blame for ignoring all the voices of women who wanted more… for ignoring women who wanted to tell the truth… and for shutting down any woman who wanted to protest against the dominant male figure.

BUT THIS AWFUL REALITY ENDS TODAY. 

In university, I took a Women’s Studies class that had opened my eyes to the vast inequalities that women face compared to men. Women’s Studies made me understand that being a girl is really, really, really fucking hard. We have to work so much harder to get a job, to be creative, to excel in sports, to be noticed solely with our minds and not our bodies, and to be treated as equals of men. Women are more susceptible to domestic violence, sexual assault, harassment, and negative stigmas. Women role models in politics, sports, business, and religion are not as dominant as male role models. Men seem to have the better road in life… while we are forced to climb the highest mountain peaks, in order to reach what most men can easily attain. IT’S REALLY NOT FAIR. 

Sexual harassment is a term that I didn’t associate myself with before, and that is because of fear. I too, am guilty of being uncomfortable with the topic. I too, was oblivious with the topic. I used to be the person who would much rather talk about the latest Instagram trends than to talk about sexual harassment. Now that I think about it, I should had discussed the issue more when I could have… I should had done it for the sake of the next female generations to come.

What do I mean?

Well, I’ve never been sexually harassed before, but I know people who had been. At the time, their stories didn’t make me ache like it aches me now. Their stories didn’t touch me as deep, because I was uncomfortable and had very little knowledge about the topic. After taking a semester of Women’s Studies class, I can now confidently express my opinions about sexual harassment. That class broke my comfort levels and made me realize that if I keep being quiet about all the sexual harassments existing around me… if I choose to be quiet and not spread the voices of women needing to be heard… If I choose to do NOTHING… then I too, am failing at being a woman.

We need to listen to the women who had been hurt. We need to support them and let them understand that we are here for them… fighting with them… and we are here because we want the next generations to understand that they are safe. The next generation of girls needs to be raised knowing what their rights are, and knowing that their rights are protected. The next generation of girls needs to understand that their bodies are not a sexualized item. The next generation of girls deserve to feel like their voices, opinions, and ideas matter. We MUST obliterate sexual harassment now, for the sake of all our future daughters, and their daughters.

Ideally, we must fight against the men who feel entitled to harassing women and placing our bodies in a sexualized manner – we must defend our rights as women to be treated as equals of men. Ideally, the word “sexual harassment” should be an issue most boys get educated about in order for them to treat their future girlfriends and wives with the utmost respect. Most importantly, we must educate our boys about sexual harassment NOW, in order to protect the girls of tomorrow, and to give justice for the women who had suffered sexual harassment or assault.

SEXUAL HARASSMENT – It is real. It is affecting women’s lives. It is an issue we must address.

As a creative individual/blogger, I feel safe knowing that I have a platform that doesn’t need me to succumb to any male input. I have the control over my blog, thus I have the ability and freedom to release whatever creativity, content, stories, posts, or pictures I want to share. IF my freedom as a blogger was ever taken away from me, that would honestly shatter my spirit and destroy any of my desires to keep on writing… I can only imagine what it must had felt like for those creative women to be oppressed by men. That’s like me losing my blog… that’s like me losing my voice. 

Creativity stems dreams.

We all have creativity inside us. We all have dreams. The reason why I stand with the #MeToo movement (movement against sexual assault and harassment) is because of the undignified individuals who are threatening the dreamers from dreaming… thus threatening the dreamer’s creativity and ideas. If we keep on being silent about sexual harassment, how many more girls will have dreams of making it big only to find out that she must take her clothes off first in order to make it BIG… How many more innocent dreamers will we wake up in the nightmare of being raped, just because they really wanted that job they worked so hard to attain… How many more creative thinkers are we going to kill just because their ideas threatened ours… How many more creative minds are we going to ignore just because we’re scared to listen… HOW MANY MORE?

The #MeToo movement inspired this post. I wanted to share with you all my take and my voice against sexual harassment. The photoshoot in which I had the beautiful honour shooting with Jason May, is my abstract view of childhood and adulthood. In the photos below, I symbolize the adult and the balloons represents the little girl I used to be. As a woman, I STILL CARRY THE VOICE OF MY YOUNGER SELF. My younger self was pure and innocent… the little girl in me always believed in the good… and I still believe in that light, which is the goodness triumphing over the bad. As an adult, I will now carry on my younger self’s vision and pass on that light to the next generation… essentially, I’m passing on these balloons to you. I hope that you stand in the light of the good.

Dear Readers, this is the time wherein we really need to listen and to be more accepting. To the men who are standing with us and listening, I applaud you so much. To the women who are voicing their stories to the public, I hope you keep on talking because you have an audience at your feet. To the younger kids who are scared to be creative and to dream… keep on dreaming, someday your dreams will become a reality.

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.