Relationship Mood Board – How to Celebrate Your One Year Anniversary!!

Dear Readers,

As you all may already know, Jason and I celebrated our one year anniversary on June 25, 2018. Since it was on a Monday, we decided to have our anniversary dinner on Saturday, June 23. Here are some pics from our dinner at Sukiyaki House:

On our actual anniversary date on June 25, 2018, Jason and I made a Mood Board!!!!

What is a Mood Board?

Ideally, a Mood Board is a giant poster/board that hold photos, and words that lead towards inspiration. Ultimately, a Mood Board should help you visualize what you’re thinking or dreaming about in your head. By putting all of these creative ideas or dreams or visions you have from your head, into something physical such as a poster paper, can help you channel out your energy the right way. It helps you determine the goals you have in mind, and pushes you to believe and strive towards those goals.

The power of the mind is no joke. Have you ever heard of the saying, “the more you think, dream, and pray about it, the more it’ll come true”. The Mood Board, is the visual representation of that saying.

The idea of making a Mood Board came from my best friend, Tamika. Originally, she told me to make one for myself only… but then I realized, why not make a “Relationship Mood Board” instead?!?!

Jason and I gathered photos from the internet that represented the 5 most important things in our relationship. These 5 are:

1.) Family

2.) Home

3.) Pet

4.) Travel

5.) Cars

This is how our Mood Board looks like:

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As you can see, at the back of our board we wrote a special letter from our “current selves” to our “future selves”.¬† It’s a reminder of who we are right now, and who we aspire to be… just in case, somewhere along our lives wherein we might forget.

A quick summary of the 5 most important things in our life, and the photos we selected.

  1. Family – Jason and I want to have 2 kids. We also want to establish our careers as CPAs (Chartered Professional Accountants) and land stable jobs. We both agree that job security is important in order to maintain a happy family.
  2. Home – Thankfully, we both agree to a modern looking house, and modern decor. I want a nice kitchen, with white marble countertops, white walls, and modern furnitures. Jason wants a gaming room, wherein he can play his gaming computer, TV, Xbox, and Play Station (typical guy, I know).
  3. Pet – This was mostly MY IDEA. I grew up with two cats, and ever since I lost them, I’ve been relentlessly dreaming of owning my own pet cat. Ideally, I want a fat grey cat, just like the one on our Mood Board ūüôā
  4. Travel – Both of us want to travel the world before we officially settle, get married and have kids. At the top of our travel bucket list includes, Philippines (my¬†country of birth), China (Jason’s country of birth), Mexico, and Las Vegas (Jason enjoys gambling – so this would be the perfect getaway for him!).
  5. Cars – Our dream cars all happen to be in white colors!!! Mine would be the G-Wagon, and his are the other two cars on the board (I have no idea what they’re called).

I love our Mood Board!!!

It’s the best source of inspiration, and motivation to keep on going. It’s truly a physical way of viewing our dreams as a couple. Now that I have it up in my room, every time I glance at it, I feel so much more inspired… more motivated… more ambitious… and it feels as if my dreams, are not too far away.

Our Relationship Mood Board, represents the goals that Jason and I are working towards. Each couple must have these sets of goals, because having an end goal wherein both partners can work towards is key to a lasting relationship. How dull would your relationship be, if you and your partner have no dreams… no shared visions… no shared goals… A couple must always, always dream and work hard together, because that is truly the key to a beautiful and long relationship.

Remember this, “the glory and joy of achieving your goals as a couple will taste so much sweeter, because the couple dreamed it together, worked for it together, and are living in it together. Don’t let your fear hold you back… support each other… encourage the other… and one day, in God’s good grace, you’ll have everything in your Relationship Mood Board too!”¬†

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

How to be Single on Valentine’s Day

February 8, 2018

Dear Readers,

It’s that time of the year again!!! Ohhhh Valentine’s Day, it’s every cuffed up person’s favorite day, and also the WORST day for those who are forever alone.

Anyone who is currently in a relationship or who is dating, most likely have their own plans made for February 14th. Some may had booked an exciting night conquering escape rooms, or relaxing over paint night. Some may had already planned a romantic dinner date at a fancy restaurant, or through a lazy home cooked dinner. Some may had booked a getaway in Banff, or perhaps plan on skating around Bowness Park. It doesn’t matter how you choose to spend it, Valentine’s Day is best spent with the person who makes you feel like everyday is Valentine’s Day!

For Valentine’s Day this year, I probably will be somewhere in Calgary eating steak with Jason and perhaps, ending the night in a sexy lingerie somewhere… Jason and I will be celebrating our FIRST Valentine’s Day together… and trust me, we had planned something quite amazing to make February 14, 2018 a memorable day.

BUT WHAT ABOUT THOSE UNLUCKY ONES… THE ONES WHO ARE SPENDING VALENTINE’S DAY ALONE?!?!? WHAT ABOUT THEM?!?

Last year, I had a pretty lonely Valentine’s Day too. In fact, I spent last year’s Valentine’s Day studying for my tax midterm. Having gone through Valentine’s Day alone made me understand why single people hate this day. It’s really annoying to be single on Valentine’s. As soon as February rolls around, you get bombarded by red hearts all over the malls, chocolates packaged in hearts, bears holding hearts, heart shaped stickers, heart themed decorations, roses, red ribbons, and more HEARTS all over the place!

As a single person, it can get really annoying… it’s like the world telling you that no one is ever going to be your Valentine… that you’re most likely going to spend another lonely Valentine’s Day… that no one is ever going to love you… that you will be, forever alone… single as fuck…

Well, you poor, unfortunate soul, I have a few tips to get you through February 14, 2018!

1.) Buy your own chocolates or ice cream or BOTH

Independence is a sexy thing. So enjoy in these overpriced chocolates or ice cream, and treat yourself! After all, you have no one to look sexy for anyways… and the chocolates/ice cream will truly help you feel better in your misery… so you might as well indulge!

2.) Write yourself a letter

Self-love is the best love! Since you won’t be getting any Valentine’s Day card from a special someone, then you might as well write a letter for yourself. In the letter, you should write about what you love about yourself and what makes you unique. The letter will remind you of how amazing you are, and how you don’t need another person to remind you of your greatness. AND… while you’re writing, go eat your pre-bought chocolates too!

3.) Find a single friend and make dinner plans

In the billions of people in this planet, I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s single. There are actually quite plenty of you guys! Find that one friend or acquaintance or cousin or sister or brother or neighbour and make dinner plans with them!!! I think this tip is best for those dreading the idea of being alone on VDAY. So, you might as well ask around and make dinner plans! This is a great chance for you to socialize and create memories with the people who cares about you! So what if you’re single, you have friends and family that loves you too!!!

4.) Go watch a movie

This Valentine’s Day there are actually a few movies that comes out on the 14th, or movies that are already in theatres. Hello, “50 Shades Freed”¬†!!!! There’s nothing wrong with going to the movies on your own… I mean, yeah, people might judge you and think you’re weird… or a loner… but hey, YOU’RE A BOSS ASS B* and you don’t need to listen to anyone’s opinion of you. The best part of going to the movies, is the delicious fatty bag of popcorn you can shove your face in!!! And since it’s Valentine’s Day, you can buy 2 bags of popcorn all for yourself… and you don’t have to worry about sharing!

Side note: you can find a single friend to go to the movies with you too, you don’t have to go alone.

5.) DO YOU. 

If I was single on Valentine’s Day this year, I’d most likely be doing this. You can “DO YOU” in many ways! Here are some tips:

-take a long warm bath or get a massage

-treat yourself for a pedicure or manicure

-do a facial mask and light a candle in your room

-read a book and drink your favorite wine

-bake something… some people think baking is relaxing… and you get to eat it after too! It’s a win-win situation!

-workout!!! If you’re like me, you’ll find that working out is the best way to unwind and calm your mind… I feel so much better after a good sweat!!! Working out uplifts your mood and that’s what you really need as a single person on VDAY.

I don’t know how you best unwind and relax, but on February 14th, if you have nothing else better planned, then just relax…. DO YOU!!!

You’re an independent, strong, smart, beautiful, and amazing human being. Valentine’s Day is just one day in the year, wherein people get to do extra and special things for their partners. In my opinion, Valentine’s Day should be an everyday thing… but it exists to give couples an excuse to be “extra” for a day.¬† It’s not overrated (I know you’re thinking this right now), it’s just a day to treat your loved one even more special!

Well for you, since you’re out here reading my post… I want you to know that someday you’ll have a Valentine too. Love comes unexpectedly and it comes when the timing is right. So be patient, and for the meantime… focus on YOU! DO YOU!

Now, don’t be too salty over the couples flaunting and flexin’ on the gram… Just keep on scrolling!! Who knows, maybe next year you’ll find yourself being extra as hell on February 14th too! Maybe next year, you’ll finally have a Valentine… and that’s something to look forward to!

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

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Our First Multicultural Christmas Together

January 8, 2017

Dear Readers,

A week has passed in the New Year and I’m already up to so many goals! And my 2017 ended in the most remarkable way!!! But before I start discussing what I want 2018 to look like, I’d like to recap how 2017 ended.

For those of you who doesn’t know, Jason and I shared our first Christmas and New Year’s Eve together!!! I learned quite a few things from this experience. Since Jason is Chinese, and I’m Filipino, the way our families celebrated the holidays were so different. I want to share with you all what a Chinese Christmas is like from a non-Chinese perspective!

For starters, the food are completely unique in the Yang’s Christmas Day dinner versus my family’s Christmas Eve dinner. At the Yang’s, we had a variety of tofu dishes, salmon, ginger beef, Chinese sausage, saut√©ed mushroom and veggies, rice, shredded potato, and we drank lots of red wine. The dishes Jason’s parents cooked were amazing and it was a feast I wasn’t accustomed to, but thoroughly enjoyed. I feel guilty for eating most of the salmon, but me eating a lot is perhaps the biggest compliment I can offer to the cook.

At my family’s Christmas Eve dinner, my mom prepared a few Filipino dishes such as kare-kare and Filipino spaghetti (sweet sauce style), and other non-Filipino dishes such as mashed potatoes and roast beef for my white side of the family. Jason’s favorite was the¬†kare-kare…¬†He also loved the roast beef!

Another fascinating part of our Christmas is the random “theme” my mom selects and implement during my family’s Christmas Eve dinner. This year, my mom’s theme was “Christmas ugly sweaters”. As seen on the featured image, even Jason wore the ugly sweater because my family considers him as family now!!! His ugly sweater was the cutest thing – you can play “beer pong” with it and the sweater came with velcro balls!

Jason was quite unfamiliar with this “theme” tradition since his family doesn’t have a Christmas¬†“theme” tradition like ours…. I mean, my family is probably the only one who celebrates Christmas with random Christmas themes (last year’s theme was “purple”). At the Yang’s, their Christmas dinner was more casual and relaxed. Either way, it was a fun experience and totally memorable for both of us.

I think that throughout the holidays I realized something very, very important for my future with Jason. His family mostly speaks Mandarin, and Jason’s dad doesn’t speak English very well. For the most part, Jason also speaks in Mandarin when he’s at home. Throughout the holidays and even during the random nights that I would come over for dinner at Jason’s, the conversation is usually carried out in Mandarin. As a non-Mandarin speaker, during my dinners at the Yang’s, I’m left to sitting awkwardly, staring at the food, and listening to a conversation I cannot even come close to understanding…. the worst part is, I want to be a part of their conversation too, but I just can’t!!!

Since it is 2018, I think one of my main goals this year is to learn how to speak Mandarin. I know that one year is not a lot of time to turn myself into a fluent Mandarin speaker, but in a way, I want to learn how to say even the small words and common phrases. Along with my other goals in 2018 (graduating, getting employed, saving money, growing my Instagram, blogging constantly), learning how to speak Mandarin is definitely one of the most important. Having Jason and Jonas (Jason’s younger brother), helping and teaching me will make the learning process run a lot smoother and easier.

Learning Mandarin is an adjustment I must make in order to show Jason’s parents that I am willing to participate in their culture and tradition. As an outsider coming into their household, I cannot force them to adapt to me… therefore, I must find my way to blend into their family. Just like my Tita Connie said, “if Mark Zuckerberg learned how to speak Mandarin, so can you”. My Tita Connie is absolutely right!!! If Mark Zuckerberg can do it, so can I!

The biggest takeaway from this is that, dating someone who is from a different culture, background and ethnicity as you shouldn’t be a scary or intimidating thing! In fact it should be an enlightening, mesmerizing and fascinating experience. As a couple, you will discover lots from your partner’s family ways of celebrating their culture and traditions, which will help cultivate your own growth and understanding of the world. Through learning each other’s background, will help you understand why your partner is the way he/she is today. In a span of 2 days (December 24th and 25th), I think Jason learned more about me through my family’s ways of celebrating Christmas, as I did with him… and that is a foundation for a solid and lasting relationship.

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

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