Relationship Guide #3: The Growth Process

Dear Readers,

Jason and I finally made it through another year – Happy TWO years babe!!!

(This blog is being released a day earlier, our official anniversary date is June 25)

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2 YEARS LATER… 

THE BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP LESSON WE LEARNED THIS FAR, IS GROWTH.

Looking back at it, the two years we’ve had truly feels like two decades… I still can’t fully believe that Jason and I had only been together for this short, when his presence in my life is so great… I feel like I’ve known him all my life. The memories still feels brand new, our conversations never fails to bore me, our laughter still feels pure from within, and our relationship feels so much stronger than it had ever been.

But without a doubt, there were a few bumpy roads along the way… we had our fair share of fights like most couples do, and some fights were bigger than the rest. As each fight came and ended, we grew, we learned, and we became better. All our fights were never left unsettled. Regardless of how annoyed we were of each other, or how badly I wanted to walk away, we always found a way back to solve the issues we created in the first place. As my dad always told me, “never sleep angry because you do not want to wake up angry too.” 

Jason and I, we are nowhere close to perfect… but we work ourselves towards it… we slowly push each other to become the better version of ourselves day by day. We formed our relationship to break our own ideals of perfection, while slowly embracing the flaws that make us a unique pair. Of all the people I grew with, Jason is by far the best one as he walks and grows with me little by little, day by day.

Key note: we walk and grow together, never alone.

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At this time in my life, I’m in no rush to have it all figured out. To my younger readers, I have one simple message for you all:

 “Your early 20’s is a time to grow and learn. Make a few mistakes and learn from it. Fall hard on your feet, and grow right after. And at the end of it all, learn and grow some more.”

Please take that message personally into your current and future relationships too. Things aren’t always going to be pretty and all figured out. Sometimes, a couple have to face some harsh and ugly situations to get through the beautiful parts of their relationships. And for the most part, a relationship is a constant, day by day process of trying to figure life out together. Figuring life out together as a pair, is what it’s really all about.

During this process of “figuring life out”, you will grow.

A relationship should also give you plenty of room to grow, both as a pair and as a person. Never stop growing for the sake of yourself or for your partner. There will never come a time wherein your personal growth will stop… it can only be slowed down. Trust me, even old people still continue to grow day by day, because age is just a number while growth is a part of your life forever. And this same holds true for a couple’s growth. It never stops, it just slows down. The biggest setback within a relationship, is learning how to push through the slower stages of growth. But after maneuvering yourselves out of this slow and dreaded path, everything else will come so much easier. drawing-gif-cute-couple-2.gif

Growth. The constant purpose and desire to grow, is the true fuel that ignites a lasting and solid relationship. Don’t ever stop growing. 

As you all may already know, Jason doesn’t like to be publicized – he keeps a low profile. But, you all know ME and I BLOG. So, to end all of this up, I want to write a cute little message to the man who gave me the inspiration to blog, and the support I need to turn my life into the dream I’ve always envisioned.

Dear Jason,

Thank you for being you. I love you so much and I can’t imagine how I would be like today without you impacting the decisions I make and being a part of all my growth. Thank you for keeping me grounded, for telling me I’m wrong when I insist on being right, and for always believing in me. Thank you for taking my Instagram photos and being my date on countless social media events. Thank you, for literally everything you do to make my life a whole lot easier. Happy two years my love, to forever to go.

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With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

Boyfriend Tag

March 18, 2018

Dear Readers,

It’s about time we shoot and release this video!!!! I asked my Instagram followers to ask me questions for the “Boyfriend Tag” video – I selected a few of my favorite questions and asked Jason a few of my own 🙂

WATCH US BE CUTE AND WHATEVAAAAAA:

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With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio & Jason Yang

Happiest 22nd Birthday Langga!

February 27, 2018

FACT: Jason (Shang) is a leap year baby. He was born on February 29, 1996.

Dear Shang,

You’re finally 22 years old! WOW! I’m not a cougar anymore!!!

Although, there are only 6 months between our age gap, that to me feels like 6 years. In our world, I often behave like the younger one who always gets into trouble and throws little sissy fits here and there – while you continue to carry yourself with so much intelligence, patience, and maturity. You’re truly amazing for your age.

At 22 years old, you had already accomplished so much. You’re already working as a revenue manager for a big company, while still in your 3rd year of university. You’re such a diligent and hard-worker, which is why you deserve every success that comes your way.  You’re the backbone of your family, a great leader to your basketball teammates, a smart person whose GPA may be slightly better than mine, and your sarcasm makes you a great and fun friend. You have plenty of great attributes, but above all, you’re the most loving and caring boyfriend a girl can ever have.

At this point, I’ve been lucky enough to get to know you. I learn so much from you, yet you’re younger than me… It’s true what they say, maturity doesn’t come from age, it comes from the core of one’s being.

Jason, thank you for being the best boyfriend. For being so patient, so understanding and so mature. Thank you, for loving me even though I’m drunk at 3:00 AM or when I’m stressed over midterms. Thank you, for editing my papers, reading my assignments, and even doing some of my homework for me. Thank you, for making my life a little easier. Thank you, for being so kind to my family and treating my family like yours. Thank you, for trying to influence me to be a better person. Thank you, for being born.

I may be a little dramatic at times, and my “extraness” may get in the way sometimes… but one thing is for sure, the Dezleigh today wouldn’t be as special if there wasn’t a Jason supporting her. For that, all I can say is, thank you!

You’re probably in tears by now…. which is totally fine, because if this didn’t make you feel teary-eyed then these photos will:

 

Happy, happy, happy 22nd birthday Langga!!!! I love you so much and I can’t wait to make more memories with you! 

With love,

BBG W PHAT **$ 🙂