SAVE THE DATE… WITH BASIC INVITE!

Dear Readers,

As it is February 2020, and this month is known to be the “love” month, I wanted to share with you all a sweet website that will save your life… especially for those who are planning a wedding soon!!

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Do you have an upcoming “save the date for a wedding?” Don’t worry, I have just the thing for you!!! Basic Invite (CLICK ME) is a website where you can freely customize your wedding invitations using their super user friendly site. Basic Invite is a fun website that also offers an amazing options of designs and instant previews to allow you to customize your cards until it is as perfect as it gets.

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They even offer cute magnets for your save the date!! CHECK THIS OUT (magnet wedding save the date).

And of course, if the magnetic version is not enough, they also have the traditional yet still sophisticated post cards!! CHECK THIS OUT (wedding save the date post cards).

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With Basic Invite, you get access to various beautiful color combinations… we are talking over 180 different colors to play with!!!! They also have customizable sample options and all the wedding stationary you need: save the dates,  wedding invitations, enclosure cards, wedding menus, wedding programs, and wedding thank you cards. The possibilities of planning the perfect wedding is endless with Basic Invite.

Finally, when you had created the perfect wedding invitation, sending off your invitations will be a lot easier with Basic Invite. They have this option called the, Seal and Send Wedding Invitations”, which is essentially an all-in-one wedding invitation with a tear off RSVP post card included! AND YES, these are all completely customizable, with Basic Invite’s over 30 designs!!

The most unique part about Basic Invite’s “Seal and Sends”,  is that the guests’ address is already printed off at the front cover of each invitation and envelopes won’t even be necessary anymore!!! Here’s an example and this design is also my fave: Cool Marble Seal and Send.

BUT HOLD UP – DON’T START TO THINK THAT ME AND JASON ARE GETTING ENGAGED… 

This site offers so much more than just wedding invites!!! You can create business cards, baby shower invitations, graduation announcements and any card for other occasions such as birthdays, office parties, holidays, and baptism!!!

As I already mentioned, Jason and I are not getting married yet… so I used Basic Invite to create my Influencer Business Card. Check out my new business card, that I designed all by myself through Basic Invite. It’s so elegant, fun, and so ME!!

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With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio

The Key to Having a Positive Mind

Dear Readers,

In life, we will have many encounters of feeling down and low. Often than most, we truly need to strengthen our mental outlook of life. In times wherein it gets tougher to be positive, one must always remember that being a negative person does not lead towards anything great. Positivity is the answer to attracting the right people and the right opportunities. A positive mind can generate ideas like none other. A positive mind can empower one towards achieving set goals and dreams. The power of having a positive mind is the strongest superweapon of all.

The topic of keeping a positive mind is so important to me. As I recently shared, I’m going through some trivial moments, as well as transitioning into another chapter of my life (a.k.a being an adult). All of these mixed emotions can create a spur of joy with a sudden burst of fear. Thus, there are times wherein I find myself attracting negative thoughts and negative vibes. Personally, negativity is one giant word and idea I try to avoid at all costs. Negativity has this toll on me, once I let it in, even for a second, my mind’s regular and healthy flow is disrupted. I don’t fear negativity, what I fear the most is losing my positive nature because of it.

Not only do I have to overcome the lurking cancer scare around my family members (see previous post), I also have to overcome my own struggles. As a recent graduate with a degree, I’m facing the common struggles of many post-grads. These concerning issues includes:

-Student loans

-Debt

-Job prospects & security

-Financial capabilities

 

And many, many, many more. The list can go on for days if I wanted to. 

Despite my own share of stress and struggles, I’m forcing myself to maintain my inner positivity and clear state of mind. I want my objectives to remain clear and my focus intact. Throughout the years, I’ve realized that surrounding myself with negativity truly leads to no good. This quote I found online summarizes it all:

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The only thing that negativity has ever brought upon my life is doubt. A positive person knows full well that negative people will use their own doubts to pull them down. A positive person also understands that negativity creates doubt, which leads to fear. To be truly in control of a positive mind, one must understand the power of choice.

Each positive person must understand that they have the power to control their own minds. The freedom to force yourself to believe in the positive sides of life is truly liberating. A positive mind is an optimistic one, that views everything in its good light regardless of all the darkness surrounding it. A positive mind understands the power of training the mind to choose positive thoughts and thinking, rather than its opposite.

For each scenario, there will always be a positive and negative point of views. You see, the balance of life includes both positive and negative aspects. For example, Chinese philosophy highly describes life’s balance through the yin and yang. As famously known, yin and yang explains contradicting opposites as a way to achieve a balance. The circle symbol of a white pole and black pole signifies harmony. Without each opposite, achieving harmony and balance will be difficult. (Jason should really teach me more Chinese – their culture is quite fascinating!)

Now let’s use yin and yang in our positive minds versus negative minds analogy. Here’s an example for you to consider: A recent university graduate.

From our example above there are two possible ways of thinking about this:

1.) A positive mind will view this greatly because a degree means higher education; a higher education means greater opportunities.

2.) A negative mind will view this sadistically, by thinking about the student’s loans and debts.

What if we expand on our example. Now, consider this: A recent university graduate has no debt due to financial awards. 

Again, there are two possible ways of thinking about this:

1.) A positive mind will view this greatly because a degree means higher education; a higher education means greater opportunities. Given that the student has no debt, all his/her future salary can be saved for future goals e.i. a house, a car etc.

2.) A negative mind will view this sadistically, even though the student has no accumulated loans. A negative mind will then start to doubt the student’s career options given the competitive nature of the world.

Again, let’s further expand on our example. Consider this: A recent university graduate has no debt due to financial awards. After graduation, the student fails to find a job. 

The corresponding ways of thinking about this:

1.) A positive mind will view this greatly because a degree means higher education; a higher education means greater opportunities. Given that the student has no debt, all his/her future salary can be saved for future goals e.i. a house, a car etc. Since the new grad can’t find a position just yet, truly in the near future the perfect opportunity and window will come!

2.) A negative mind will view this sadistically, even though the student has no accumulated loans. A negative mind will then start to be a pessimist about the student’s unemployment given the competitive nature of the world. On top of that, the negative mind will be pleased to know that the student is currently unemployed. The negative mind will continue to doubt.

I think you all get the idea. 

The positive mind always focuses on the good things, while the negative mind always lingers around doubt. It’s the yin and yang of life. If there is light, there is also dark. But the best way to live, is by choosing to live in the light while understanding that the darkness exists. For each possible ways of thinking, the positive mind is always optimistic, hopeful, and joyful. On the contrary, the negative mind is always pessimistic, doubtful, and envious. It’s seriously like choosing to be either white and pure OR black and shady. But, be rest assured, in all scenarios of life you have the ability and option to pick and control your state of mind. Your choice of either having a positive mind or a negative mind, is purely under your control.

Choose to be positive.

Choose positivity.

Choose a positive mind.

Because by having a positive mind can take you places you’ve always dreamed of.

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio

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My New CAR!!! Here’s to a New Chapter!

Dear Readers,

On April 26, 2018, I said “goodbye” to my first car, a 2001 Chevy Cavalier. My first car was quite a special one. Regardless of how beaten up it was, it was a part of my journey throughout high school and throughout university. That car took me places I’ve never been before. That car was a part of countless carpool jams…. countless late nights at Crescent Heights… countless heartbreaks…. countless memories that I will never, ever forget.

My first car was passed on to me by my step-dad, Steve. It was pretty much his first car too. Remarkably, that car lasted in our family for a complete 17 years without ever failing us. It’s been through a lot with me. In high school, unlike many kids my age, my first car gave me freedom. Being able to drive a car at the age of 16 was a privilege. Ever since I got my learners, that car was pretty much with me everyday and everywhere I went. That car has seen some crazy and wild things, been through my highs and lows, and through all the stumbles and falls… it’s been a good old friend…

I remember driving my friends to parties and clubs in my Cavalier. I remember late nights of just sitting in that car, talking about dreams and fears with my dearest friends. I remember driving cold winters to school… driving my family around… driving myself around… My Cavalier was a beast… literally.

As time kept rolling, my Cavalier started to weaken. The brakes needed work and its windshield wipers was pretty much broken. (Most of my friends literally witnessed me physically pouring out washer fluid on to the windshield just because my car wouldn’t spray it out – this has become an inside joke between all my friends and I… and this is a perfect example of my car’s dysfunctions… it was a struggle).

And so, like most chapters in a book, my Cavalier’s chapter came to an end. As my brakes came too unbearable and too scary to drive, we had to let it go and replace it with something new… (don’t worry, the Cavalier is still in our family’s hands!!! Just with a different driver/owner, fixed brakes, fixed engine, and fixed windshield wipers – this blogpost is seriously just for the dramatics of showing off my new car)

Here are pics and videos to commemorate my old, 2001 Chevy Cavalier:

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AND NOW, I INTRODUCE TO YOU, MY NEW CAR!!!!!

This is the 2017 Honda Civic Coupe, Touring.

 

 

This car is quite a beauty. It comes with leather seats, wireless charging, custom rims and tires, and my favorite part… it has a huge compartment inside!!! I can literally fit a bag of chips beside me while driving and still feel comfortable. Not to mention, the all black paint job and rims that totally makes the car look sexier!

I also picked a coupe over a four-door car, simply because this car is my, “I’m not having babies until I’m 30 car“. I wanted to get a car for me, and Jason ONLY. To me, the idea of having a four-door car screamed, “kids” and “carpool”… 2 words I don’t want to deal with for the time being. The coupe seemed more like an appropriate choice for a lady, who’s only in her early 20s… a lady with no kids yet, and a young lady transitioning into a young adult!

As a recent university graduate, I consider this car as my first adult purchase. However, this is also my parents’ grad gift for me. We established to share the cost of the car. As soon as I start working, I’m paying for my own insurance, gas and maintenance costs, as my parents pay for the bi-weekly car payments. So, all in all, its a good deal for a young adult like me! It’s also great gift from my generous mom and dad!

This is truly a blessing. I am thankful for all that I have. Sometimes, life can push us to our limits. In some cases, we tend to focus purely on the negatives. For instance, I’ve always envied people who drove nicer cars… faster cars… more expensive cars… yet I forgot to be thankful for the fact that I had my Cavalier. There were times wherein I overlooked my blessings. My Cavalier may not had been the best, but it was still a blessing to have. I soon realized, that there are people who wants to drive and/or own a car but can’t afford to, would gladly switch spots with me. Owning any car that was able to take me places I wanted to go, was better than its opposite. Regardless of how beaten up my Cavalier was, it was still a reliable car that took me to my desired destinations. That’s when I realized the value of all things and how I must take what I have as a blessing in its own light, rather than comparing it with what others have. The more I became more grateful, the more I realized just how much blessings I truly had.

But heyyyyy…. this Civic, is a bigger blessing and I’m incredibly thankful for it!

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.