Relationship Guide #3: The Growth Process

Dear Readers,

Jason and I finally made it through another year – Happy TWO years babe!!!

(This blog is being released a day earlier, our official anniversary date is June 25)

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2 YEARS LATER… 

THE BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP LESSON WE LEARNED THIS FAR, IS GROWTH.

Looking back at it, the two years we’ve had truly feels like two decades… I still can’t fully believe that Jason and I had only been together for this short, when his presence in my life is so great… I feel like I’ve known him all my life. The memories still feels brand new, our conversations never fails to bore me, our laughter still feels pure from within, and our relationship feels so much stronger than it had ever been.

But without a doubt, there were a few bumpy roads along the way… we had our fair share of fights like most couples do, and some fights were bigger than the rest. As each fight came and ended, we grew, we learned, and we became better. All our fights were never left unsettled. Regardless of how annoyed we were of each other, or how badly I wanted to walk away, we always found a way back to solve the issues we created in the first place. As my dad always told me, “never sleep angry because you do not want to wake up angry too.” 

Jason and I, we are nowhere close to perfect… but we work ourselves towards it… we slowly push each other to become the better version of ourselves day by day. We formed our relationship to break our own ideals of perfection, while slowly embracing the flaws that make us a unique pair. Of all the people I grew with, Jason is by far the best one as he walks and grows with me little by little, day by day.

Key note: we walk and grow together, never alone.

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At this time in my life, I’m in no rush to have it all figured out. To my younger readers, I have one simple message for you all:

 “Your early 20’s is a time to grow and learn. Make a few mistakes and learn from it. Fall hard on your feet, and grow right after. And at the end of it all, learn and grow some more.”

Please take that message personally into your current and future relationships too. Things aren’t always going to be pretty and all figured out. Sometimes, a couple have to face some harsh and ugly situations to get through the beautiful parts of their relationships. And for the most part, a relationship is a constant, day by day process of trying to figure life out together. Figuring life out together as a pair, is what it’s really all about.

During this process of “figuring life out”, you will grow.

A relationship should also give you plenty of room to grow, both as a pair and as a person. Never stop growing for the sake of yourself or for your partner. There will never come a time wherein your personal growth will stop… it can only be slowed down. Trust me, even old people still continue to grow day by day, because age is just a number while growth is a part of your life forever. And this same holds true for a couple’s growth. It never stops, it just slows down. The biggest setback within a relationship, is learning how to push through the slower stages of growth. But after maneuvering yourselves out of this slow and dreaded path, everything else will come so much easier. drawing-gif-cute-couple-2.gif

Growth. The constant purpose and desire to grow, is the true fuel that ignites a lasting and solid relationship. Don’t ever stop growing. 

As you all may already know, Jason doesn’t like to be publicized – he keeps a low profile. But, you all know ME and I BLOG. So, to end all of this up, I want to write a cute little message to the man who gave me the inspiration to blog, and the support I need to turn my life into the dream I’ve always envisioned.

Dear Jason,

Thank you for being you. I love you so much and I can’t imagine how I would be like today without you impacting the decisions I make and being a part of all my growth. Thank you for keeping me grounded, for telling me I’m wrong when I insist on being right, and for always believing in me. Thank you for taking my Instagram photos and being my date on countless social media events. Thank you, for literally everything you do to make my life a whole lot easier. Happy two years my love, to forever to go.

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With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

TWENTY-THREE

Dear Readers,

YOUR GIRL IS NOW 23!!!

My 22nd year of living literally felt like a storm. It all happened too quick, and so much has happened. From starting my 22nd year with my friends partying, to falling in love with Jason, to completing my final year of university, expanding my blog, discovering my future, and to travelling Kelowna… all of it happened within 365 days.

TODAY, I still stand the same influential, positive, charismatic, sweet and loving Dezleigh. The recent year taught me how to be braver, and matured me in ways I could never imagine. I learned that sometimes life will get so dark that keeping a positive outlook gets a little tough… yet, I learned that if you surround yourself with people who carry stars on their eyes, and the sun in their hearts… I learned that these people’s light and glow, will lead you out of your darkness.

At 22, I learned how to value my friends, family, and Jason even MORE.

To my friends, I owe them so much for being the support system I needed when I was emotionally drowning. They were my life vessel, that carried me through the days wherein I felt like giving up. Graduating university would never be the same if I didn’t have my friends by my side. My success is partially theirs. I am so blessed to have them in my life.

To my family, I’m so thankful to have such a loving and supportive family like the one I have. My aunts are my first best friends, who only want the best for me. My uncles are my first protectors, who are there to watch over my back. My dad is my idol, who showed me how to live life to the fullest no matter what. Steve is my superhero, who raised me into becoming a strong woman full of wisdom, courage, and bravery. My mom, is a goddess with the power to heal my broken wounds and empower my frightened soul to believe that nothing is impossible if I hustle, pray, and dream. My whole life would be meaningless without my family.

To Jason, throughout this whole year, you were by my side through each chapter – may it be good or bad. I am truly in awe and madly in love with you. You calm my storms, and make my sunny days last longer than normal. Through you, I had gained another family outside my family. Another branch in my family tree has been born because of you. Jonas, is like the brother I never had and your mom is like my second mom who graces me with gentleness and calmness. Above all, you had taught me so many things and I am just so thankful to have you around as I continue on with life.

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Now that I’m getting older, each birthday feels a little sadder than the year before. Perhaps, it comes with the sad realization that I’m aging and losing my youthful years. But when I remind myself of all the great memories I made, the accomplishments I earned, the people who love me, and the great life I live – all of these combined makes me so happy and makes me feel so blessed.

This year, I will be travelling to Vegas to celebrate my 23rd birthday. Our Vegas trip is only the first of all the great things to come this year!!!

To my Readers, thank you for keeping up with me throughout the years. Without your support in reading, liking my Instagram photos, and supporting all my content, I wouldn’t be the influential Dezleighh that I am today. Thank you for embarking my life’s journey with me.

I pray that all my plans, goals, and dreams will come true in my 23rd year of life.

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With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

5 Ways to Fall in Love in Kelowna

Dear Readers

After many months of patiently waiting, Jason and I finally went on our first vacation as a couple!!!

WE WENT TO KELOWNA!!!!

If you follow my Instagram, you already know that Jason and I spent a week at Kelowna along with my family and Jason’s little brother, Jonas. Kelowna is perhaps my favorite Canadian city during the summer. WHY?

BECAUSE I FALL IN LOVE WITH KELOWNA EVERY SINGLE TIME I VISIT.

The mountains that surround the massive lakes are a sight to marvel on its own. Add wine to that mix, and you got yourself a romantic place… best part about this year’s Kelowna trip is the fact that the love of my life, mi amor, my langga, my bao bei, was with me the whole time.

You see, falling in love in Kelowna can happen in 5 ways.

1.) Wineries

Did you really go to Kelowna if you didn’t visit at least ONE winery???

If you said NO, then you definitely missed out!!! But if you said YES, then you would know how romantic wineries are. During this trip, Jason and I visited a few wineries, including Mission Hill, Summerhill Pyramid Winery, and Frequency Winery.

I’m not much of a “wine expert”, but I am a TOURIST expert. I didn’t go to these wineries for the wine, to be honest, I was there solely for the view and the ambiance of it all. As Jason and I strolled through each winery, hand in hand, I can feel the pure joy of being in love just swarming my veins and dashing through my soul. Nothing felt better than dragging your partner to corners of the winery just to see a different angle of the marvellous mountains… or perhaps, dragging your partner to the spots wherein the best views can be seen… that on its own is a feeling worth falling in love for. As we soaked up the summer heat, we also soaked up the mesmerizing view of each other being mesmerized of the view in front of us. Jason is quite a view himself, but the view from the wineries I mentioned, are truly one of a kind.

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2.) Cherry Picking

Another popular tourist attraction or tourist to-do in Kelowna is to pick cherries or cherry picking!

My little cousin, Aurora, had the best time picking cherries! Look at these photos of her:

But cherry picking is not only fun for kids, it’s also fun for adults! Jason and I truly enjoyed following Aurora around the cherry trees. For each cherry we picked and ate, the sweetness of each cherry can’t compare to the sweetness level of my relationship with Jason. Nothing can compare to the sight of Jason picking up a cherry from the tallest branch, and then giving it to me… the sweetness of each cherry can’t compare to the sweetness of having Jason there to eat and experience these cherries with me. The whole experience wouldn’t had been the same if Jason wasn’t in the picture.

3.) Water Sports 

If you’re a couple who are always looking for some thrill, adventure, and fun, then Kelowna is still a perfect place to fall in love at!

This year’s Kelowna trip, Jason and I did some water sports such as tubing and rode like adrenaline junkies in rented sea doos! The adrenaline rush was so addicting!!! I would definitely come back and do all of it again! You should too!

Kelowna is a great place to make memories at. Not only does the place offer amazing views, it’s also a great place to experience new things for the first time. In our case, Jason’s first time tubing and riding/driving the sea doo happened in Kelowna. Since it was his first time trying these fun activities, the experience became a hundred times more memorable. In terms of falling in love, how can you ever forget your firsts???

The memories of trying something new along with the one you love, is better than your typical Friday night date, because you get to create a memory that will last longer than any regular date ever will. I mean, how can you forget that one time you two fell off a tube while being dragged by a boat that’s going 60 km/h… or that one time you saw your family members fall off a sea doo because they were driving too fast… or that one time you drove a sea doo for the first time… these are the type of stories a couple will share with their family, friends, and even strangers, over and over again.

4.) Date Night at Cactus Club Cafe

Jason and I LOVE food.

Food is an important part of our relationship, because we both love to eat!!! A vacation wouldn’t be complete without a private date night (just us two), and good food. So, on the last night of our trip, we left Jonas with my parents and decided to drive to Downtown Kelowna Boardwalk. Around this area, you will find some great restaurants. Of all the great places to eat near the boardwalk, we decided to hit up Cactus Club Cafe because it is located at waterfront. The ambiance of the place was perfect too!!! And the food, well, you can never go wrong with Cactus Club Cafe!

Alone time as a couple is so important during a big family vacation. Dinner dates such as these, can make any place feel a hundred times more surreal. The conversations seem to last a little longer, the food seem to taste a little better, and the person you’re with seem to be placed perfectly in your life… that dinner wouldn’t be the same if it was with someone else. The moments we had shared while we were on our date night at Cactus Club Cafe, was quite special.

5.) Stroll Around Kasugai Gardens 

While you’re in the Downtown Kelowna Boardwalk area, make sure to take a quick stroll around Kasugai Gardens.

Nature offers beauty beyond words can ever describe. Gardens offer serenity and a sense of wonder at how beautiful flowers blossom and how green the grasses and leaves can get. While strolling around Kasugai Gardens, the serenity of the place will make you feel even more at peace while you hold your special someone’s hand as tightly as you possibly can. As you stroll around, you will realize that the sense of serenity and ease doesn’t just come from the garden alone… it also comes with the fact that you have someone you love to hold beside you. The peacefulness of the garden was amplified because Jason was there with me. During our stroll at Kasugai Garden, I felt at peace and so relaxed. At that moment, I was not alone… I had someone who loved me and whom I loved back… Being able to share moments like this with each other, is worth falling in love for.

As summer 2018 draws near to an end, I look forward to my future Kelowna summer trips. WHY?

because I want to fall in love over, and over again. 

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.