How to be Single on Valentine’s Day

February 8, 2018

Dear Readers,

It’s that time of the year again!!! Ohhhh Valentine’s Day, it’s every cuffed up person’s favorite day, and also the WORST day for those who are forever alone.

Anyone who is currently in a relationship or who is dating, most likely have their own plans made for February 14th. Some may had booked an exciting night conquering escape rooms, or relaxing over paint night. Some may had already planned a romantic dinner date at a fancy restaurant, or through a lazy home cooked dinner. Some may had booked a getaway in Banff, or perhaps plan on skating around Bowness Park. It doesn’t matter how you choose to spend it, Valentine’s Day is best spent with the person who makes you feel like everyday is Valentine’s Day!

For Valentine’s Day this year, I probably will be somewhere in Calgary eating steak with Jason and perhaps, ending the night in a sexy lingerie somewhere… Jason and I will be celebrating our FIRST Valentine’s Day together… and trust me, we had planned something quite amazing to make February 14, 2018 a memorable day.

BUT WHAT ABOUT THOSE UNLUCKY ONES… THE ONES WHO ARE SPENDING VALENTINE’S DAY ALONE?!?!? WHAT ABOUT THEM?!?

Last year, I had a pretty lonely Valentine’s Day too. In fact, I spent last year’s Valentine’s Day studying for my tax midterm. Having gone through Valentine’s Day alone made me understand why single people hate this day. It’s really annoying to be single on Valentine’s. As soon as February rolls around, you get bombarded by red hearts all over the malls, chocolates packaged in hearts, bears holding hearts, heart shaped stickers, heart themed decorations, roses, red ribbons, and more HEARTS all over the place!

As a single person, it can get really annoying… it’s like the world telling you that no one is ever going to be your Valentine… that you’re most likely going to spend another lonely Valentine’s Day… that no one is ever going to love you… that you will be, forever alone… single as fuck…

Well, you poor, unfortunate soul, I have a few tips to get you through February 14, 2018!

1.) Buy your own chocolates or ice cream or BOTH

Independence is a sexy thing. So enjoy in these overpriced chocolates or ice cream, and treat yourself! After all, you have no one to look sexy for anyways… and the chocolates/ice cream will truly help you feel better in your misery… so you might as well indulge!

2.) Write yourself a letter

Self-love is the best love! Since you won’t be getting any Valentine’s Day card from a special someone, then you might as well write a letter for yourself. In the letter, you should write about what you love about yourself and what makes you unique. The letter will remind you of how amazing you are, and how you don’t need another person to remind you of your greatness. AND… while you’re writing, go eat your pre-bought chocolates too!

3.) Find a single friend and make dinner plans

In the billions of people in this planet, I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s single. There are actually quite plenty of you guys! Find that one friend or acquaintance or cousin or sister or brother or neighbour and make dinner plans with them!!! I think this tip is best for those dreading the idea of being alone on VDAY. So, you might as well ask around and make dinner plans! This is a great chance for you to socialize and create memories with the people who cares about you! So what if you’re single, you have friends and family that loves you too!!!

4.) Go watch a movie

This Valentine’s Day there are actually a few movies that comes out on the 14th, or movies that are already in theatres. Hello, “50 Shades Freed” !!!! There’s nothing wrong with going to the movies on your own… I mean, yeah, people might judge you and think you’re weird… or a loner… but hey, YOU’RE A BOSS ASS B* and you don’t need to listen to anyone’s opinion of you. The best part of going to the movies, is the delicious fatty bag of popcorn you can shove your face in!!! And since it’s Valentine’s Day, you can buy 2 bags of popcorn all for yourself… and you don’t have to worry about sharing!

Side note: you can find a single friend to go to the movies with you too, you don’t have to go alone.

5.) DO YOU. 

If I was single on Valentine’s Day this year, I’d most likely be doing this. You can “DO YOU” in many ways! Here are some tips:

-take a long warm bath or get a massage

-treat yourself for a pedicure or manicure

-do a facial mask and light a candle in your room

-read a book and drink your favorite wine

-bake something… some people think baking is relaxing… and you get to eat it after too! It’s a win-win situation!

-workout!!! If you’re like me, you’ll find that working out is the best way to unwind and calm your mind… I feel so much better after a good sweat!!! Working out uplifts your mood and that’s what you really need as a single person on VDAY.

I don’t know how you best unwind and relax, but on February 14th, if you have nothing else better planned, then just relax…. DO YOU!!!

You’re an independent, strong, smart, beautiful, and amazing human being. Valentine’s Day is just one day in the year, wherein people get to do extra and special things for their partners. In my opinion, Valentine’s Day should be an everyday thing… but it exists to give couples an excuse to be “extra” for a day.  It’s not overrated (I know you’re thinking this right now), it’s just a day to treat your loved one even more special!

Well for you, since you’re out here reading my post… I want you to know that someday you’ll have a Valentine too. Love comes unexpectedly and it comes when the timing is right. So be patient, and for the meantime… focus on YOU! DO YOU!

Now, don’t be too salty over the couples flaunting and flexin’ on the gram… Just keep on scrolling!! Who knows, maybe next year you’ll find yourself being extra as hell on February 14th too! Maybe next year, you’ll finally have a Valentine… and that’s something to look forward to!

With love,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

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Enjoy Your Freedom – A Tip to Single People for Summer 2017

May 25, 2017

Dear Readers,

Since summer is coming up fairly quick here, it’s important that you remember to enjoy yourself to the best you can. Let “Summer 2017” be your season to explore the world, expand your horizons, meet new people, party hard each weekend, get lost somewhere, spontaneous car rides to unknown destinations, ice cream runs at 1 AM, early morning jogs or late night walks, or simply chill at home as you finish yet another Netflix show. As a single person, there’s so much you can do within the summer months. So relax, take it easy and enjoy your independence. This summer, just find comfort in your singleness knowing that it’s not “cuffing season” just yet.

What is “cuffing season”?

“During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed” (Urban Dictionary, 2017, source).

This summer, I hope you find yourself even more. Let this summer be one in which you allow yourself to be surrounded by joy, fun, adventure, and happiness. If you’re single like me, here’s the best advice I can ever give you for the next 3 summer months: STAY SINGLE.

Trust me, there’s so much to do on your own. 

If you’re reading this as someone who’s currently in a relationship, well I still hope you and your partner have an amazing summer too. But for the most part, this post is truly aimed for those who are currently single – especially the ones (like me) who are going through their first summer of being single after many, many, many years of being tied down in a relationship. You see, upon deep reflection about wanting to have someone to share my “Summer 2017” with, I realized that I’m perfectly fine on my own for the season. My summer should not revolve around nobody else but me.

As a student I don’t really have plenty of time to spend socializing and having fun when the Fall and Winter semesters begin. In September, I will enter my 4th and final year in university. I promised myself that my last year as a student will be completely devoted in achieving my academic goals and focusing solely on the foundation of my future career. Thus, it makes sense for a student like me to take advantage of “Summer 2017”. I only get 3 months during the year to take a break from my responsibilities at school. I only get 3 months off from the stress and hard work… so why not make each and every single day in those 3 months count? 

For the most part, I truly want to share the next 3 months creating lasting and fun memories with my new and old friends. This summer, I want to create stories worth sharing at my wedding someday. I want great and epic summer stories that will blow my future fiancé’s mind!!! So far, I’m already off to a great start. There has been a few experiences my friends and I had gone through the past month that we all will remember for the rest of our lives (i.e. “Bespoke Squad” – to my friends, this inside joke is for you). For the summer, as absurdly profound and dumb as this may sound, I am also doing a “Party Weekend Streak (P.W.S)”. This P.W.S is currently going strong and I’m already on my 8th weekend in a row. My main rule for P.W.S is fairly straightforward: party at least once on the weekends until summer ends. My goal this summer is to reach 15 weekends of straight P.W.S. Just imagine what stories are there to be unfolded and future stories I could tell with my P.W.S!!!

Another reason why being single this summer is ideal for me is that this blog is going to require so much work and attention for the next 3 months. As I get busier in school in September, I will barely have time to blog and share my ideas. I’m building my blog as much as I can right now, knowing that I’ll eventually slow down once school begins. As a single person, I control so much more of my time. Given all the freedom I have, I can choose when to go out for a photoshoot, when to record, when to edit, when to write, and I have more flexibility with my time. If I was still in a committed relationship, I may have to adjust my time to my partner’s as well as to mine. Thus, it’s better that I’m currently single because my time is not shared with anyone else but me!!! Meaning, I can do absolutely whatever I want for the next 3 months without any boundaries or hinderance. Be ready for all the blogposts, videos, photos, collaborations, and ideas I have coming up!!! This summer, I’m releasing bangers after bangers, after bangers!!!

Lastly, I truly think that being single for the summer is what my heart and soul needs. I need to experience a summer of being an independent being without having any commitments to anyone. I need to be selfish this summer and just do things that I want. Since my past 5 years relationship, I had gone through 5 straight summers sharing it with the exact same person. Within those summers, I’ll admit that I lost track of the things I wanted to do as an individual. I don’t even know what it’s like to be single during Stampede (Calgary Festival that occurs annually in July) – I heard the parties are wild around this time in the city. What if I meet my next boo then? In addition, I want to fully realize my individual growth before I turn 22 years old this August 30th. I want to gift myself an awesome summer experience in which I know for certain I wouldn’t experience if I was in a relationship. Therefore, I will take my time this summer to experience all those selfish desires I’ve always had but never achieved. Simple desires such as: focusing on my hobbies (blogging, jogs, brunch dates, hiking etc.), celebrating life with the people I genuinely have fun with, and meeting new and exciting people that has the potential of changing my life for the best.

You see, a relationship does not prevent one in attaining all the points I mentioned of why being single for the summer is a great idea. But to most people, having a summer to experience the single life to its fullest is an opportunity we should take. In the future, once we find the right person for our love, we will have plenty of summers to share with him/her. So why rush it all?!? Take this summer now, and make it your own!!! Who knows, this could be your last summer as a single person. Maybe sometime next summer you’ll have someone to share all of this with. But for now, enjoy yourself and don’t ruin your  own version of “Summer 2017”. If you want, you can join me in my P.W.S. or even create your own summer blog! Whatever it is, I hope you find yourself this summer. Enjoy your freedom, because you deserve it.

Sincerely,

Mary Dezleigh Teodosio.

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